Feeling so tired n sad. It has been quite a while since I felt in this way.
No one to talk to.
No one to share.
No one will understand.
God please help me.
Monday, 28 May 2012
Sunday, 27 May 2012
Sorry.. Thanks.. What else to say?
The husband dished porridge lunch for Faith and I earlier. Right after his cooking, I went to kitchen to wash my hands before start eating. I then decided to clean up the kitchen before I eat. This made him upset.
The intention of cleaning up is because I have the habit to clean up right after my cooking before eating. So the number of dishes to wash will not be as many as after eating. This made him very unhappy.
Sigh.. I am tired to explain further. I thought our marriage of 9 years will make us understand each other more but I don't see this in many incidents.
I appreciated his effort in cooking and said thanks for the lunch. But where is the thanks for cleaning up?
Sometimes I am tired or pre-occupied and I didn't hear him properly, he gets very upset of me not listening. I will just say sorry when this happened.
Sometimes I am not angry but accidentally sounded loud, he gets very upset. I will just say sorry sometimes ..
Where is the patience and tolerance we should have for each other?
I admit that I don't have good patience. In fact I lose mine easily last time. But the more I facing these, the more I reminded myself to be patient. I keep telling myself this is a training ground that God has planned to train my patience. Hope I don't lose my cool and sanity.
The intention of cleaning up is because I have the habit to clean up right after my cooking before eating. So the number of dishes to wash will not be as many as after eating. This made him very unhappy.
Sigh.. I am tired to explain further. I thought our marriage of 9 years will make us understand each other more but I don't see this in many incidents.
I appreciated his effort in cooking and said thanks for the lunch. But where is the thanks for cleaning up?
Sometimes I am tired or pre-occupied and I didn't hear him properly, he gets very upset of me not listening. I will just say sorry when this happened.
Sometimes I am not angry but accidentally sounded loud, he gets very upset. I will just say sorry sometimes ..
Where is the patience and tolerance we should have for each other?
I admit that I don't have good patience. In fact I lose mine easily last time. But the more I facing these, the more I reminded myself to be patient. I keep telling myself this is a training ground that God has planned to train my patience. Hope I don't lose my cool and sanity.
Sunday, 20 May 2012
Role of a husband when staying with in law
I decided to write this post after two unhappy incidents happened in 1 week....
What role do you think a husband should play when staying w in law (guy's side)?
To me, this man of the house has to be a mediator that resolves conflicts and prevent misunderstanding from occurring and a communicator who relay messages and also a calm listener who listens to all complains from both sides.
Back to the incidents, although is trivial but was badly managed. Incident 1, my BIL asked us whether we want his maid when his family away for holiday. I told the husband I don't want when he first told me in the car way home. Then my BIL called my MIL while having dinner at home, my MIL then asked the husband and who knows... he asked me again in front of his mother and brother (who is over the phone). I then said no again. Then his mother said she could sleep with her and blah blah... Then both looked at me again and I repeated myself third or fourth times saying no. Then my MIL said no to my BIL and added is me that don't want. What will you do if you were me? I always feel my husband is a sensitive person but when come to handling his family, where is his sensitivity and tactfulness go to? This episode really makes me unhappy.
Today something happened again. It was the clothes rack that has a lot of blunt surface which caused by the person don't know how to use. I briefly commented the damage and the husband said just leave it on balcony. I then said I need it to put my clothes on top n I need it clean. Just bcos of his mother don't know how to use properly, I have to clean it every time I use next time since leaving outside will result it v dirty. After that, we were speechless and just not commenting more. ... At night I was at balcony looking at the better way to place the rack then the husband said just leave it outside and it will not spoilt easily. Sigh.. Then we had a loud quarrel in front of the old lady. Pissed ... More pissed.
How much more do I have to endure these nonsense?
Sometimes I feel that it will be better if I put faith in full day childcare n keep the old lady out of my house.
Sigh... More quarrels are sure to come.. Is there anyone could tell me what should I do..
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What role do you think a husband should play when staying w in law (guy's side)?
To me, this man of the house has to be a mediator that resolves conflicts and prevent misunderstanding from occurring and a communicator who relay messages and also a calm listener who listens to all complains from both sides.
Back to the incidents, although is trivial but was badly managed. Incident 1, my BIL asked us whether we want his maid when his family away for holiday. I told the husband I don't want when he first told me in the car way home. Then my BIL called my MIL while having dinner at home, my MIL then asked the husband and who knows... he asked me again in front of his mother and brother (who is over the phone). I then said no again. Then his mother said she could sleep with her and blah blah... Then both looked at me again and I repeated myself third or fourth times saying no. Then my MIL said no to my BIL and added is me that don't want. What will you do if you were me? I always feel my husband is a sensitive person but when come to handling his family, where is his sensitivity and tactfulness go to? This episode really makes me unhappy.
Today something happened again. It was the clothes rack that has a lot of blunt surface which caused by the person don't know how to use. I briefly commented the damage and the husband said just leave it on balcony. I then said I need it to put my clothes on top n I need it clean. Just bcos of his mother don't know how to use properly, I have to clean it every time I use next time since leaving outside will result it v dirty. After that, we were speechless and just not commenting more. ... At night I was at balcony looking at the better way to place the rack then the husband said just leave it outside and it will not spoilt easily. Sigh.. Then we had a loud quarrel in front of the old lady. Pissed ... More pissed.
How much more do I have to endure these nonsense?
Sometimes I feel that it will be better if I put faith in full day childcare n keep the old lady out of my house.
Sigh... More quarrels are sure to come.. Is there anyone could tell me what should I do..
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Wednesday, 16 May 2012
Self-motivate...
Sometimes u feel sad...
Sometimes u feel helpless...
Sometimes u just don't have any strength to do anything
And wish things turn up differently
But no one could help u other than urself and keep telling urself that u could do it... U have to do it.. U don't have a choice... N keep pushing urself over n over again so u could find the strength to move on.
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Sometimes u feel helpless...
Sometimes u just don't have any strength to do anything
And wish things turn up differently
But no one could help u other than urself and keep telling urself that u could do it... U have to do it.. U don't have a choice... N keep pushing urself over n over again so u could find the strength to move on.
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Thursday, 19 April 2012
Fresh new day.
Gotta to be stronger and positive to face coming challenges. Learn from the past and not letting it weaken me.
Wednesday, 18 April 2012
Lousy day
Feeling lousy.. lousy.. lousy. Although that is not something I want, but the people I met just make me feel so little and lousy. Sigh.
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