This morning, one of my good old friend Rene msn me (not once, thrice) and asked me to call her in Singapore immediately. I was pretty worried what had happened. She did not ask me to call her before. Usually we communicate via msn or whatapps.
I managed to call her and get to know that one of our Secondary schoolmate is going through difficult times with her family. Recently, she has been avoiding all friends' calls except her current BF's call. And this makes my good old friend felt uneasy.
From the call, I spoke to Rene and the BF of our secondary schoolmate and get to know the one-side story.
Here is her story... She was married for 10 years and has two young kids from this marriage. Her marriage wasn't blissful. Her ex-hubby is over possessive and whenever she went out with her friends, he sent her nasty and insulting sms(es) to humilate and threaten her. She was so scared that she trembled when she read the sms. Rene saw her tremble once before when she was out with her. Her ex-hubby had abused her once before. She is fearful of her ex-hubby. Even till now she is still fearful of him. She felt that she could not live with him anymore and after a long thinking she made a decision. She signed separation letter early this year and left the house. His ex-hubby then begged her to give him another chance and promise to change. He told her to stay in the house and he moved out. Which means she has to take care of their kids while working full time. She sort of agreed and continue to stay on. But her ex-hubby did not change and continue threaten her during this period. Now she got so afraid that she didn't go out with anyone else.
During the separation period, she gets into another relationship. When she is not completely out of her previous relationship, she got herself into another one.
The whole relationship is so complex that I took a while to piece them together. I really don't know what advice I could give Rene or the BF. I feel that the only person could help is our schoolmate herself. Noone self could help her.
(Hmm.. You maybe wondering why I end up spoke to the BF when I called Rene. Don't ask me why. This caught me in shock when my good old friend just passed the phone to him and asked him to talk to me as if I will have an answer to all the problems.)
After speaking for an hour, our call ended with a heavy heart. I am pretty upset of what had happened to our sec. school mate. I believe she has went through a lot a lot for the past 10 years. Now I could only hope she will see and feel what she truly wants and what is best for her kids.
On the other hand, I thank God for giving me a great loving hubby and a sweet girl. I feel so blessed. I will remind myself and treasure what we have.
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