My hubby. He is a good daddy.
He makes sure she don't get bullied by other kids without been overprotective.
He makes sure she is not naked running around when her friend came over to play.
He carries her even his legs are tired and arm is numbed.
He feeds her dinner even he is hungry.
He looks for new games or videos for her every other day.
He pats her to sleep even he is very sleepy.
He carried her and joined the super long queue at Ben & Jerry @Atlantis just to get her a cup of her fav. ice-cream.
He lends her his new gadget (ipad2) and even his handphone whole day.
He dances silly dance with her and plays boy games with her.
When it comes to disclipine, he stands firm.
He pulled her aside and pat talk her whenever she mis-behave.
He gave warning to her when she gets overboard.
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And she knows our limits.She says "Sorry, I will not do it again..." when she knows we are angry or upset with her. But she will do again few seconds after she said she will not.
Many times she is strong-headed and refuse to apologise or give in until we give our ultimate warning. We hate to do this but threatening works many times.
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In days when I give up in discliping Faith, he listens to my rantings and gives me words of encouragement.
Sometimes I was very disappointed and upset when things do not turn out to be what I wanted it to be even I have put in so much efforts. And I felt that whatever I do doesn't really matter anymore. He tells me "If we give up, who will teach her..."
Today, Faith is giving me a nerve-racking time. First, she watches videos on her dad's ipad2 for hours. (Now while I am typing this blog, she is still watching.) She didn't touch her school work for whole day. Second, she told me she is tired and asked for milk when she supposed to have lunch. But after drinking milk, she is full of energy watching video again. And been rude to be several times.
I then told my hubby over sms. He again listened to my ranting. He then sms me this "I am trying to be cultivating. If we have no patience, how do we expect she has?"
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Although I know my hubby is better in teaching Faith, I disagree with him in certain areas.
1. Let her has his ipad2 for whole day. These days, Faith will choose her dad's gadget to be her daytime playmate. She will either choose her dad's newly bought ipad2 or iphone. I really don't like this idea as I got difficulties in controling her usage since it is given by her dad. And she gets very rude and mad with me when I tried to stop her.
2. Let her watch videos during dinner time. I grow up from a family with little bonding. Since young, parents are seldom at home as they often worked late. To entertain ourselves, we watched television over dinner. And of course it became an habit and even we have meals together, television is on in the background. I see the good family bondings in families with NO TV or VIDEOs during all meals. I hope to see this in our family too. And I no longer seeing the benefits of letting her watch videos during meals. She don't finished her meals.
3. Let her use gadget in car. It is not just my hubby. I sometimes give in and let her has our iphone during car ride. Sigh. Do your kids also watch in car too? I feel that this is very bad for eyesight. What could I do to stop this? Really don't like this.
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I am grateful to have a hubby who loves and cares so much for his kid. With daddy's unconditional love and kind nurturing, I hope we could see great improvement in our girl's behavior and become an everyone girl who is kind hearted and lovely always.
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